Two Steps Forward, Two Steps Back
One of the main themes of this blog is the relationship between technology and the level of human connection in people. Several months ago the Pew internet research company released a study that validated something I saw to be true about social networks; that despite what some people said, our "friends" on facebook are actually like real friends.
Here are some of their findings from a study of 2,255 Americans:
• Facebook user are more trusting of others
• Facebook users have more close relationships
• Facebook users are more politically engaged
• Facebook users have more social support
• Facebook helps users retain high school ties and revives dormant relationships.
• Only 3% of friends are people users have never met in person
• Only 7% are people who have met only one time.
Source: http://www.pewinternet.org/Press-Releases/2011/Social-networking-sites-and-our-lives.aspx
The summary of the study was that "Facebook users are more trusting, have more close friends, are more politically engaged, and get more support from their friends". Clearly this was a win for my premise, Facebook users are more connected to each other because of technology.
Then I Have a Day Like Today...
Today was Thanksgiving, five families came together under one roof. We sat and talked. In the room were several wireless devices: 3 ipads, one nook, 8 smartphones, two laptops. And the beast in the room was the big 52" inch flatscreen hdtv.
The moment any of the afore mentioned devices were turned on some, or all of the 15 people's attention weren't with the group. Watching football on Thanksgiving is a tradition (that I happen to like), but I've got to say that it doesn't do much for a group dynamic.
Photo by: csailaAs for the iPads... my kids are 2, 5 and 7 and the moment either of the older one's get their hands on an ipad that's the last we hear from them. That is, unless they are fighting over whose turn it is to play a game. Angry birds, Smurf's, racing games, puzzle, games, unicorn games.. The kids love them, and they suck up their attention. The kids aren't the only ones, the main culprit for the adults was Facebook, and I'm one of the guilty parties. We may have been closer to our facebook friends, but while were interacting with them we're not interacting with out family members sitting besides us on the couch. And this is the problem for me.
When Did the Isolation Begin?
The walkman first became popular when I was in high school. Back then it was the radio or a cassette tape, (not mp3's). After seeing a few of my friend's with walkman's my first impression (after the initial coolness) was, "how selfish". This was surly not everyone's reaction, but I couldn't help feeling cheated and jealous of my friend sitting next to me, jamming to some unknown tune, while I was forced to look-on, un-engaged and un-entertained. Later I got my own walkman and that feeling was erased, but my initial reaction was valid. This new device was creating a separation between the walkman user and the the rest of the world. Flash forward to the present, our held-held devices not only play music anymore, they do about 100 other things as well. the amount of time and the amount of isolation we experience from those around us has grown exponentially.
Because of technology we can have, and maintain relationships with thousands of people online through platforms like facebook and twitter, but is it robbing time from our friends and families? Through our mobile devices we can be engaged and entertained every waking moment of our lives, but how do we balance this with being engaged with those who share proximity and a "flesh-and-bones" relationship with us? This may be one of the great challenges of our generation.












